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No does not mean convince me. No means No

As far as we have come, our society does not sufficiently value women. If we want to end gender violence in Australia get men involved. Violence against women is a cultural problem. Can you imagine if I were beaten up and abused anyone saying: 'well what did I say to my abuser, what was I wearing?' Yet we have now, even to this day, women as well as men looking at a woman who was raped saying: 'I’m sure it was your fault, did you have on a bra? What were you wearing?' This common response is deeply rooted in the Western notion that women are the property of, subservient to, somehow responsible to men.

What is the one thing we could do to make our communities safer? The overwhelming response I hear is: get more men involved. Part of changing the culture is changing the responsibility of men. Until we get to the point where our focus is the abuser and not the reporter, we will have succeeded, that is, not a single woman ever says what did I do? How was I responsible?

It's never a woman’s fault unless she physically abuses; it doesn’t matter, whether you are at work, in a back seat of a car, a date, in your home, on the street, what your wearing. NO means NO under every, every, every circumstance. Whenever it is uttered NO means NO and any action beyond the word 'NO' is a crime